Losing My Way


I had a time in my life when I lost my way.  From my generally optimistic and can-do approach, I veered into a period where I doubted my ability and hid behind duties of family.  It was a dark time.  And it lasted too long.


What did I learn that I can pass along?

  • Believe in my own ability to determine the direction I should head.  I know myself best and while “an abundance of counselors” is important in making major decisions, my own instincts, honed and tethered, is my most solid source.
  • If I am in an environment where virtually nothing I do is accepted, find another environment.
  • If there is too much confusion, take time, maybe away from everything, to assess for myself.  It is possible.  Maybe for an hour.  Maybe for a day.  Once for me it was a weekend in a hotel suite with a pile of post-it notes and a flip chart.  Time and space to think and sense will often part the clouds.
  • Don’t let others determine for me my next steps of growth.  Again, having others who have my best interest at heart can be a wonderful source of clarity.  But, they are only seeing what I show them.  There are steps I know about that may need to be taken first, before the steps obvious to others.  I must be patient with myself….and intentional about the next step.

“You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.” -Rosalynn Carter

I like that.  I wish I had had that confidence in my abilities back in my 30’s and 40’s.  But I do now.  And I am grateful for the strength to look back and remember what I have learned without bitterness or anger.

I am willing to share those lessons with others now.  It is a huge part of my life of encouragement and motivation.  I need less from others than I once did.  And I have a lot to give because of lessons and experiences.  My third third is proving to be my favorite.


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